The wonderful Deb from Home Life Simplified has launched her 52 Weeks to Simplifying Your Life challenge which I am so excited for! The challenge for week one is to reflect back on 2011 in a positive light. In late 2011 I reflected on the past year but didn't focus so much on me and the positives.
I thought this task would be easier than it actually was. I do feel a lot better after this exercise though. Maybe 2011 wasn't as negative as I think.
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Seeing lufflump go from a shy, awkward child to the outgoing, adventurous child he is today. His growth has been amazing and beyond our wildest dreams. The mister is in a good place as well with work and getting back into fitness. Finding out about sesame and watching her and my belly's growth has been a joy. Learning and growing through my blog has definitely made me happy.
Lowering expectations of self, events and others has given the mister and I both peace this year. We've been able to find a medium where we expect less but with the respect we believe we deserve to get. I'm still learning to focus my energy positively and not waste it negatively.
The mister continued and continues to be a positive influence in my life. Through blogging I've met many positive people who have helped enrich my life. In 2011 I decided I didn't want negative 'friends' in my life so did a big reassessment and culled those negative people out of my life. It was very cleansing moment and continues to be.
Luckily lufflump still naps which allows me to also nap which has been necessary during this pregnancy. I've also been lucky to have almost weekly day dates with the mister. Lufflump also has had some overnight dates allowing relaxation and rejuvenation. I also discovered the simple beauty of a nice hot, private shower for a quick feel good fix.
This a constant change with new challenges often due to lufflump's development, my health and the mister's work schedule. The mister and I have always worked well as a team; encouraging, communicating with and being supportive of each other. Disagreements are discussed but not dwelled upon. Sitting back, trusting and allowing him to parent the way he believes is best and him doing the same with me makes our family work. If one of us says or does something the other backs them up. Luckily for us we parent similar and where we don't it balances out.
Starting and growing my blog motivated me and gave me the excitement I lacked in other areas of my life. Forming connections over social media with amazing women was definitely a highlight of 2011 for me.
I learned to trust my body more, I am stronger than I think, no one is a perfect parent and that life is what you make it. A big lesson for me was from the floods; I realised that things, material possessions, are just things and don't make up for love or family. That helped me begin the declutter process in my home and life.
I was and am grateful for my wealth, health, family, friends and freedom we have in this country. We are, in fact, living the lucky life!
Fantastic reflections, how wonderful that you can now go out and not get anxious? Anxiety was a big part of my life when my boys were little, but thankfully mostly behind me now. I hope yours stays away for 2012 :)
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I love one of the very first points - reclaiming my life from anxiety. This is close to my heart and can be an extremely tough journey - so kudos to you for taking back your life! Hope you have an excellent 2012
ReplyDeleteAnxiety still strikes me, although it seems to have lessened as my children get older. What a wonderful thing for you, to be so much free of that anxiety. I loved reading your reflections. xx
ReplyDeleteI could totally relate to your relationship/parenting philosophy. Communication is everything. I've been trying to sit back and not interfere as Charlie settles into his role as stepdad to my girls.
ReplyDeleteYour family has thrived this year - that's very cool.
Sounds like 2011 was a great year! it is funny, I expected it to be really hard to write this post, but once I got started it just flowed and was easier than I thought. it is easy to look back on the negative, but much more rewarding to think about the positives, the times and things that made you happy. Sounds like 2012 will be exciting and challenging for you, too. Looking forward to following along.
ReplyDeleteLove this Ames (thought i had already commented but must have read and dashed) - i especially loved your at peace answer!!
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